“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” – Anais Nin
The blossoming and blooming should be easy. And yet why is it sometimes so painstakingly challenging?
Fear of success. Fear of failure. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being loved. Fear of not reaching even though we strive. These emotions can sometimes get in the way.
With success, striving, goals and dreams there also comes risk. It’s unknown. It’s exciting. We dream, we envision and plan for success. And sometimes when it comes time for action we freeze.
What if we never strive? What if we never dream? Flourish, blossom or bloom? Become who we truly want to be? It will be just that… a what if.
I’m discovering it takes courage to grow up and become who I want to be.
Those closest to us, often with all the love in their hearts will say or do things, that we can take all too personally. Despite their best intentions, the actions, thoughts, ideas and projections of our nearest and dearest can have the opposite effect.
We can end up living our lives for other people. We can end up bowing to their expectations and their idea of what life is meant to be like.
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” —E. E. Cummings
Often people who love us, as well meaning as they may be, can push their impressions or limitations onto anyone within earshot.
If you only had one year left to live what would you do?
Quit your job? Move to Italy? Spend more time with your loved ones? Backpack around the world? Learn to paint?
Why is that when faced with the question of mortality we have absolutely no qualms about knowing what we want and how we would spend our time on this earth? However in general day to day life we spend our waking moments often building someone else’s dream instead of spending our most precious commodity, that is our time, the way we would like to. The time frame of only having a year can put a few things into perspective.