How to use the Law of Attraction to Live Life on Your Terms (Part 1)
So the Law of Attraction (LOA) and I have known each other for a while.
We go way back. Like waaaaay back.
Yet, there is a difference between knowing something and doing something. There is a difference between knowing the path and actually walking the path.
You see, I grew up in a household where discussions about Law of Attraction, energy, the power of the subconscious mind and the like were a regular occurrence – just as much as discussions about homework, sports and what I wanted to be when I grew up. It’s just kind of always been there, like white noise, in the background. But, I didn’t start really paying attention and consciously realising that it was a thing until I was about 15 when my interest was sparked. But then, well, being a teenager took over and I didn’t really re-visit it seriously again (despite conversations happening most nights at the dinner table) until I was in university around the age of 19 or 20.
It was at that time, I started going to seminars on personal development and watching movies like ‘The Secret’. And you could say I dabbled. At first, I wanted to believe, but was skeptical. Annnd then when money didn’t appear out of thin air I may have thought to myself “This manifesting stuff doesn’t work.” Ha!
Nowadays, after refining my manifesting muscle, the Law of Attraction has been and continues to be a game changer for me. I’ve manifested many different opportunities.
Using the LOA I’ve gone from stuck university graduate to landing a coveted job in corporate for a Fortune 500 Company straight out of university. I’ve created my ideal relationship with the partner of my dreams. I’ve used the LOA to steer my life on an entirely new path. I’ve created my dream business where I can work from anywhere as long as I have my laptop. I’ve attracted high paying clients, travelled the world and now make a living doing what I love.
Through studying the psychology of success, the Law of Attraction and working as a mindset coach with people all over the world to help them live life on their terms I have learned a few things in regards to ensuring the Law of Attraction works for you, so you can truly live life on your terms.
Below I dive into some hints and tips that I’ve learnt and know will make a difference to your life when using the LOA.
So here’s part 1 (you’ll have to check for part 2 in the next few days!):
1. So tell me what you want, what you really, really want
Have you ever been around those people who, when you ask them: “What do you want?” they they say “I don’t know” or they aren’t too sure? It’s a bit hard to know what to do around those people sometimes, and it can seem a bit hard or tricky to please them, because they aren’t sharing what they want to do. It can get somewhat frustrating.
My fiancé might say I’m like this when it comes to food and being asked what I want for dinner as more often than not I tend to say I’m not sure or whatever is easy. But, when it comes to manifesting and Law of Attraction don’t be that person. Don’t be the person who doesn’t really know what they want. Why? Because it just makes it all the more tricky and difficult for the Universe to deliver what you seek and serve it up for you if you aren’t sure what you want.
My number one tip, when using the Law of Attraction, is to be specific when manifesting. Often times the more specific the better. That way you will know when your order is up. There is a significant difference between “I want to manifest more money” and “I want to manifest $5000 dollars in additional income by X date.”
If I gave you a dollar after you had declared the first statement, you would quite literally have ‘more money’, but was that really what you were thinking when you said more money? Probably not. So, be specific, ask very specifically for what you want.
For me, the most amazing thing in my life that I have manifested using the Law of Attraction is my boyfriend, now fiancé. I can remember sitting by the pool in sunny Queensland one afternoon getting really specific and writing out the qualities this man would possess. It was at that point I had a little conversation with the Universe. I was really specific, I wrote down the qualities this person was to possess, their personality traits, how they made me feel and how I made them feel.
Make no mistake I wrote out as much as I could – as much vivid detail about what this person would be like. Then, I did something that most people when they practice LOA forget to do. I released any and all attachment to the outcome. I put it out to the universe and I let it be.
Which leads me to a super important step in manifesting…
2. Release and trust
When manifesting to create the life of your dreams and live life on your terms we sometimes ask the Universe and then we worry when it hasn’t shown up. We ask and then wonder why life, the Universe, the big U or the powers that be have not provided for us. We want it so bad. We need it so bad. We start to worry and maybe fret. We become attached to the outcome. We love the idea of this manifested reality so much so that we kill the vibe.
Sometimes when we have a goal that we want to manifest, we can want it so bad that we can actually suffocate it. Our attachment to the outcome and the result stifles anything happening. It’s like the character Lennie in ‘Of Mice and Men’ who loves his puppy so much that he actually ends up smothering and accidentally killing the poor little thing because he loved it so much and didn’t give it space, time and let it go.
If we let what we want to manifest just be. If we let go and trust, then wonderful things will happen. There is a massive difference in the energy of ‘needing’ to make something happen, compared to ‘knowing’ and ‘trusting’ that something will happen. That sense of knowing comes with releasing any and all attachment to your outcome.
For me in the example of manifesting my ideal partner, I wrote the list, I trusted that I would manifest this or something better in my ideal partnership, and then I somewhat forgot about it. I got on with living my life and doing my thing.
Within a week I reconnected with a great guy I already knew and there was an undeniable connection there. My love likes to think he picked me up with a magic trick but we got along so well that I would have gone out with him anyway. We dated long distance, sharing dates in Fiji, London, Amsterdam and Sydney. He eventually moved across the country so we could be together. Now after nearly 7 years we are engaged. I’m incredibly grateful that our paths crossed and we get to share our lives together. But it wasn’t until I came across a notebook when we were moving house that I remembered and found the list that I wrote. As I read through it and I was blown away as he possesses every quality I had listed out. Down to very specific details.
We must learn to release our attachment to the outcome if we want to see it manifest into reality. It is almost to the point where you let it go and don’t really think about it. You trust whole heartedly that it’s out there, that the Universe is manifesting this for you and it will happen.
3. Expectations fuel your outcome
What is for you will not pass you by. Your expectations fuel your outcome. In order to easily manifest using the LOA so you can live life on your terms, you need to get clean and aligned with what you want so that you know it is a done deal. There is complete faith that it will happen. There is no doubt in your mind.
Don’t downgrade your dream and desires to fit into your version of what you think you can achieve. Upgrade your conviction to match your desires.
Let’s say you want to bring in $10,000 this month in additional business – that’s great! But let’s break that down. If on an unconscious level you believe you aren’t worthy, or if you have certain beliefs or limiting thoughts about what it would mean, or you feel on some level you can’t actually do it and it’s out of your reach, then that’s exactly what will happen.
Before you can maintain the expectation that this or something better is already done it’s important to get clean. That means release limiting beliefs or thoughts that might hinder your progress. Mindset is incredibly powerful, and is in charge your expectations. Take time to spring clean and constantly work on your mindset, so that you can attract and manifest your desires easily and live life on your terms.
A negative, disempowering and restrictive mindset weighed down by old beliefs and thought patterns that don’t support you is a sure fire way to make manifesting your dream life challenging.
On the other hand, a positive, expansive, unlimited and powerful mind leads to living life on your terms and manifesting your wildest desires.
It’s totally normal to have a bad day or not feel a hundred percent all the time – you’re human after all. So how do you manifest through the not so great times?
What you focus on grows. So begin to consciously switch your thoughts and focus to a powerful supportive way of thinking. One easy way to do this is to ask yourself: “How do I want to feel?”
In order to manifest the life that we desire, we must constantly upgrade our thoughts, as this will help to upgrade your life. Whether you realise it or not, your life is the residual of your previous thoughts, actions, patterns and behaviours. What got you to where you are now, more than likely will not get you to the next level and where you want to move to.
So there you have my first 3 tips for using the LOA to live life on your terms. I’ll be back with a blog post later in the week to share with you 4 other tips for manifesting – including the difference that makes the difference when succeeding with LOA (that most people forget) and the one thing that can sabotage your manifesting ability (and how to move through and eliminate this).
I’d love to know what your experience using the LOA has been. What tips do you have for manifesting success? What have you brought into your life using LOA? I’d love to know in the comments below!